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Planning Your Week to Achieve Your Goals

planning your weekPlanning Your Week

One of the keys to success in achieving any goal is to plan out how you will get there. Planning your week and reviewing it are important steps. Sometimes we set a big goal, have a vague idea of how to get there, and then we hope it will happen for us. Another challenge with goal setting is we sometimes sabotage ourselves. We start out with great intentions and as time goes by we start noticing all the ways we have blown it. I know from my own experience that this the time I start giving up. I want to share some of the ways that I have learned to plan better, celebrate small wins, and have my own back when I make mistakes instead of beating myself up.

Make Decisions Ahead of Time

Decision Fatigue

As you go through your week you make thousands of decisions. Your brain gets tired of making decisions and then it becomes challenging to make a good decision. It’s how you might end up eating kettle corn for dinner because you just didn’t have the mental energy to come up with an idea for dinner. Did you know that even scrolling through social media causes decision fatigue? Each post or photo you scroll past forces your brain to make a decision about what to pay attention to.

The Solution

The solution to decision fatigue is to make the important choices ahead of time. Calendar the activities that you need to practice each day that create wins for you. As you get small wins it increases your motivation. Take a weekly calendar and block out all the times that are committed to activities that are non-negotiable for you: your day job, carpooling kids, church, etc. The blank areas that are left are your opportunities to schedule the tasks moving you towards your goal. If you are working on a weight loss or fitness goal, look ahead. What days might pose a problem for you due to other commitments? Decide now how you will meet your goals despite the obstacles.
If you don’t already have a planner you can download a free printable weekly planner page with a habit tracker at the bottom of this post.

Stop wishing that you will hit your goal and plan for it!

Weekly review

A weekly review is a vital step in the process of planning your week. It’s how you will learn from your wins and from your mistakes. The review is not about shaming yourself or shooting for perfection. It’s about seeing what worked and what didn’t and planning to get better over time.
Look over the past week at all the successes. What are the wins? What did you do well? Then look at the things you didn’t do and ask yourself why you didn’t do them. Sometimes there are legitimate reasons and sometimes there are just excuses. Look closely at times you may have just plain old quit on yourself. What can you work on in the coming week? Evaluate what goes back on the plan for next week. Only put things on the calendar that your are committed to doing.

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Setting Goals: How to Set a Goal for the New Year that Changes You

Mountain - goal settingDo you have a practice of setting goals?

Do you set New Year’s resolutions or goals for the coming year? I’m working on setting goals this year in a different way than I ever have before. I’m pushing towards making this a year that I get closer to being the absolute best version of myself. I want to stretch my sense of possibility and think much bigger than what I think that I can achieve. The thing about goals is it’s not really about achieving the goal in the end. It’s more about who you become in the process of pursuing it. So it benefits you to choose a goal that stretches you. In this post I will share the tactics I’m following for this year’s goals. I have been listening to Brian Johnson of Optimize.me and Brooke Castillo of The Life Coach School for guidance on goal setting.

The process:

I’m starting by evaluating what I want in 3 major areas of my life:

Energy

Where do I get my energy to be a high performer? My energy comes from my spiritual practice, nutrition that fuels me, and exercise.

Family

How do I cultivate my relationships with my family to be an exemplary wife, daughter, mom and Gammy? I have to be intentional about deepening relationships with those I love.

Service

How am I using my gifts and talents in service to others? How do I show up in the world? Can I create value for others?

The next step is to brainstorm all my possible goals in these 3 areas. I wrote these down on paper and just let my brain flow. I do this over the span of a few days because the more I activate my mind the more ideas I come up with. Then I chose the ONE goal that helps me to achieve all the other goals. This will be my focus for the coming year.

Think Bigger

Next I am going to think bigger and move the target on that one goal to a level that I feel is impossible to achieve. I want to push myself out of my comfort zone and risk failure. That’s where the change happens. My plan is to fail early and fail often for the lessons that failure will provide for me.

We fear failure but in reality it is only in failing that we grow. If a baby was too afraid to fall he would never learn to walk. Each time he falls he fails in his attempt. But in getting up again his muscles become stronger and he becomes more practiced at walking. The falling and getting up again is actually what makes him stronger. Soon he is a master at walking and learns to run. As I’m writing this one of my favorite worship songs is running through my head.

I could just sit
I could just sit and wait for all Your goodness
Hope to feel Your presence
And I could just stay
I could just stay right where I am and hope to feel You
Hope to feel something again
And I could hold on
I could hold on to who I am and never let You
Change me from the inside
And I could be safe, oh
I could be safe here in Your arms and never leave home
Never let these walls down
(Called Me Higher by All Sons and Daughters)
We have the option of staying in our comfort zones. We can stay the same year after year and feel unfulfilled. Or we can answer the call to a higher purpose and stretch our belief. This is that year for me. How about you?

Planning for Failure

So I am planning to set a big goal and then actively think about all the ways I will fail in trying to reach it. I’m not talking about failure where I just don’t do anything and say, “See, I failed.” I am talking about planning targets towards my goal that stretch me. I may fall down in reaching for them. But each time I pick myself up I will have learned something valuable and grown a bit stronger.

The rest of the song goes something like this:

But You have called me higher
You have called me deeper
And I’ll go where You will lead me Lord
And I will be Yours, oh
I will be Yours for all my life
So let Your mercy light the path before me

Do you want to set big goals this year? I’d love to help and to encourage you. Comment below and let me know what goals you’d like to reach for. Let’s make this the best year yet!

anxiety

The Choice Between Anxiety and Faith

“The beginning of anxiety is the end of faith, and the beginning of true faith is the end of anxiety.”                 George Mueller

anxiety and faith

Tackling Anxiety and Worry

Philippians 4:6-7 is often quoted and memorized.

"6 do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. 7 And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."

I grew up knowing these verses but never really understanding how to apply them in my life. How do you just, "be anxious for nothing?" I prayed. But most times the worry was just still there. Sometimes quietly running in the background of my mind. Sometimes loudly screaming incessantly in my ear. I would feel guilty for being anxious when I knew I should be giving the worry over to God. So then I was not only worrying about the original worry, but also worrying about my faith. I didn't feel the peace of God that was promised so I felt like I was always missing something.

What I didn't realize was that the key for me was found in the next verses. God had given me actionable steps to take to manage my thinking. 

"8 Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. 9 What you have learned and received and heard and seen in me—practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you."

It Takes Practice

The bottom line is that I need  a daily practice of thinking about the right things. I am responsible to invest my thought life on things that I know to be true, honorable, just, pure, lovely, commendable, excellent, praiseworthy, etc. 

When I spend my time thinking about my anxieties and worries they are things that are potential future events. I am thinking about things that may or may not be true. God tells me to think about what I know to be true. Not on what my imagination has dreamed up as future possibilities.

I also need to look at what I am filling my mind with. IfI start my day watching or listening to the news my mind is filled with negativity. I now have a practice of starting my day with the Word of God. The Bible contains the tools and the wisdom I need to get through life. If I don't have the right tools in the tool box I can't access what I need when my mind is running amok.

What we spend time thinking about matters.