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Stop Quitting on Yourself by Growing Your Grit

Stop quitting“Quitting is a habit and justifying quitting is a skill.” – Brooke Castillo

It takes practice and focus to stop quitting on yourself.

If you want to stop quitting it helps to realize many of us have made it a lifetime habit to quit. If we have our brains on autopilot this is where we will end up – quitting. The subconscious part of our brain is focused on survival. It’s job is to tell us to seek pleasure, avoid pain and conserve energy. These are great guiding principles if I find myself in the middle of the desert struggling for survival. It requires the use of the pre-frontal cortex part of our brain to make decisions beyond mere survival and to produce awesomeness in the world. We must develop our thinking in order to meet goals that are uncomfortable. Goals like losing weight, learning something new, becoming a top athlete, homeschooling children.

What we practice is what we improve:

If I practice quitting I will become a better quitter. I spent many years practicing procrastination and it made me a great procrastinator. I also had a great deal of practice as an over-eater. What do you practice on a daily basis that may be taking you away from achieving your goals?

We make excuses (justifications) for quitting:

What excuses have you made for quitting something? Here are some of the favorites I’ve used:

  • It was the holidays.
  • I’m just to busy to do this right now.
  • Something came up.
  • I was on vacation.
  • It was the program (or diet) that didn’t work.
  • It’s too complicated.
  • I’m  confused/overwhelmed.
  • It’s my biology (age, diagnosis, etc.)

When you truly commit to something, failure is not an option.

I am learning to wrap my mind about the idea of fully committing. When you are fully committed you are no longer worried about failure. The only way to truly fail is by quitting. Quitting, in the moment, feels like relief.

When we commit to accomplishing something it feels great at first. We’re motivated and gung ho. If you have a goal to lose weight this is the stage where you’re making grocery lists, menus and diving into meal planning. As time goes by the discomfort sets in.

Then your survival brain kicks in and you may get scared that this will be one more diet that doesn’t work out. When you stop reaching for food for comfort you may find that you experience more negative emotions and thoughts. It gets tough trying to figure out how to do all this in the real world – lunch meetings with food, family functions, vacations, friends who just don’t get it. This is where you start to justify quitting. Once you quit you are relieved and temporarily happy with the decision. If may feel like peace or self-care. But later, regret and despair set in when you realize you are stuck back in your same old situation. Eventually you commit to trying again or to trying something new. And in the end you never reach your goal. It’s a vicious cycle. This is the exact cycle I was stuck in with dieting.

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Discomfort doesn’t have to derail you!

The key is to do work on your thinking at the level of discomfort. I encourage you to get help with changing your thinking and learn to manage difficult emotions. This is the work I have been doing and, oh, how I wish I had known how to do this stuff sooner. Dive into your Bible and do some studying on the mind and on thinking. Get a counselor to work through some of this with a trained guide. Feel free to jump in our Facebook Nutrition Encouragement and Support group.

In my next post I will be writing about grit. Grit is a key ingredient in pushing past discomfort and learning to stop quitting on yourself. I just finished the book Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance. I will link it here as soon as I finish it. You can also sign up for my email newsletter so you don’t miss a post.

Putting the Compound Effect to Good Use in Your Life

the compound effectThis small, easy-to-read book is deceptive. The concepts are simple to understand and the examples are compelling. But the power of “small, smart choices, completed consistently over time” can be the key to whether or not you achieve your goals. The compound effect is at work in your life whether you realize it or not. The question is whether you will use it to your advantage or if you will let it gradually drift you off course. Imagine an airplane on taking off from the west coast on autopilot. If the plane is pointed one degree off course and continues across the country, it can put you 50 miles off course by the time it arrives on the west coast. If you wonder why you keep missing your targets, I encourage you to get this book.

The Key is to Take Action

The Compound Effect is one of the best personal development books I’ve read. I read it the first time a couple of years ago and I just read through it again this month as I am refocusing on my goals. I originally chose the book as a business book but I quickly realized that the concepts in the book can apply to ANY area in my life that I want to improve. The subtitle is Jumpstart Your Income, Your Life, Your Success. I read the book quickly the first time because I couldn’t put it down. But it’s not the type of book that you should just read and move on to the next book. This book is filled with actionable steps that will change you if you take the steps. Each chapter gives you steps you can implement in your life to begin to make those small actions that add up to big results over time. There are free worksheets to go along with the book that you can download online. If you’re needing a kick start to achieving your goals, get this book!

Daily Disciplines

Daily disciplines are not fun and they are not always easy. That’s why they are called disciplines. You have to purpose in your heart to complete these mundane habits. But if you stay with them long enough they will make a difference in your life that builds over time. Anyone who has been successful in their lives has implemented daily disciplines. These could be physical, financial, or mental habits.

Momentum

Momentum is one of the key concepts to the book. Whenever you start to develop is a new habit it is difficult and tedious. It takes more effort in the beginning. But as you are consistent, the momentum builds and builds until it takes very little effort to continue with the momentum. The gains grow larger and larger.

Bookend Your Day

Another key point of the book is to bookend your day with great habits to set yourself up for success. Read more about how to design a morning makeover to get your day off to a great start. In general your morning and your evening are the parts of your day you can control. By using these times to focus on good habits you can be better prepared for the more unpredictable parts of your day.

Disclosure:

I am an Amazon affiliate so if you purchase using the link below I make a small amount that helps me run this blog. Feel free to purchase the book through any avenue you choose. Just read it and put the steps into action. You won’t regret it. Stop living your life on autopilot. The compound effect is active in your life already.

The question is will you use it to your advantage to achieve your goals and dreams?

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Meditation: A Daily Practice to Improve Memory, Focus and Willpower

meditationWe are bombarded with distraction every day: busyness, stress, social media, and an abundance of information. Our minds are a torrent of thoughts. A meditation practice can help us train our minds to move beyond the superficial noise and practice inner contemplation. I have often felt that one reason I don’t hear the still small voice of God is that I am not quiet long enough to listen.

Why meditate?

The Bible mentions meditation more than 50 times. The Hebrew words for meditation meant listening to God’s words, reflecting on His work, reviewing what He has done. Meditation is a practice of hearing God’s voice so that we can obey His words. We live in a physical world and many times we forget that we live in a spiritual world as well. Meditation is taking time to connect with the Divine and enjoy communion with Him. Jesus frequently drew away from the crowds to spend time in prayer and meditation.

Other Important Benefits

  • It improves your ability to focus your attention and concentrate.
  • With meditation you build willpower. Willpower is depleted but you can boost it with a mediation practice. Learn more about boosting your willpower here.
  • It gives you a significant immune system boost as it decreases stress. It teaches you to relax and decreases anxiety.
  • Mind-body practices can actually turn on the healthy expressions of many genes and turn off the unhealthy expression of genes.
  • Meditation gives you practice living in the moment instead of with past events and future worries.
  • You get practice noticing urges but not responding to them. You don’t have to respond to every irritation. This is a valuable life skill.

How do I create a meditation practice?

The key is to commit to the practice. We get good at it by doing it. Simply stated, we learn meditation by meditating. Put it on your calendar daily. Over time it will be a habit that you don’t have to think about it. You will just do it. Download my free weekly habit tracker printable at the bottom of this post.

Start small and be consistent. Keep it simple.

Establish a regular time to do it. Tie it to another routine to remind you to do it in the beginning. I am building a habit of doing it as part of my morning routine. After my alarm goes off I get up and take care of pets and get a big glass of water. I spend time studying my Bible and then I go into my workout room for my meditation and prayer time.

The purpose of meditation is not to get good at meditation. The purpose is to impact the rest of your day. It can help you to feel more grounded, centered, and conscientious. It can reduce anxiety and improve your memory. That sets you up for a day of feeling and being awesome!

Practical tips

Find Your Space

Ideally you will set up a place to meditate that is somewhat quiet and free of distractions. It doesn’t have to be completely silent but away from television and other noisy distractors. Another great place to meditate is outside, in nature.

In reality you can meditate anywhere, any time.  Susanna Wesley was the mother of well-known hymn writer Charles Wesley and John the founder of the Methodist church. She had 19 children (10 survived into adulthood) and there was no place or time for quiet solitude. So she developed a practice of pulling her apron over her head to spend time in prayer and meditation. Her children knew that when she was in this posture she was not to be disturbed.

Position yourself

Sit in a position of comfort but not slouched. Sit straight – on the floor or in a chair but sit up straight and tall. Your posture affects your mental state.

You can also practice meditation on your knees. Some days I get out my yoga mat and assume the position of Child’s Pose. It is comfortable to maintain and conveys a sense of surrender.

Breathe

Take deep rhythmic breaths (example: inhale for 6, hold for 2, exhale for 7). This helps to clear the mind and quiet the noise. Pay attention only to your breathing. Do this for a cycle of 5 repetitions.

When the mind drifts, bring it back. Your mind will wander. This is not about turning off your brain; it’s just about bringing it back when it does. In the normal course of our days we are bombarded with thoughts. It’s natural that it will return to this pattern. Observe that you drifted and bring your mind back to the task at hand. This practice is like doing repetitions in an exercise program. You get better and better at it as you practice.

As you meditate you will notice multiple irritations. Train your mind not to respond to every irritation or urge. This is fantastic training for your mind. Itchy nose? Buzzing fly? Urge to open your eyes? Work on increasing the amount of time that you can notice the irritation and not respond to it.

Different types of meditation

There are many ways to meditate but here are some common versions:

Meditate on the Scripture

Ponder it in your heart. Imagine yourself in the “scene.” Use your senses. Imagine how it would have felt listening to Jesus’ words as He taught the Beatitudes. What does it sound like, what would it feel like to sit on a grassy hill with thousands of others who had come to hear this teacher? Are there any particular smells? What hope do you feel as you sit there listening and realizing that this man could truly be the Messiah? Let the verses take root in your heart.

Center Yourself

This is a type of meditation that gives you space to be still and center your mind. Allow God to commune with you. Give Him your concerns and surrender to whatever He has for you. Release the things that are burdening you. He knows our needs but He still wants to hear about them from you. Philippians 4: 8 says, “…let your requests be known to God.”

Meditate on Creation

If you are meditating outside or have a view of the outside, really look at nature. Be in wonder of what God has created. Ask God what He is saying through His creation.

 

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Boost Your Willpower to Achieve Your Goal

boost your willpowerOne definition of willpower is doing what you need to do, when you need to do it, whether you feel like it or not. The bad news is willpower can be exhausted like an over-used muscle. The good news is that you can cultivate willpower and strengthen it.

Best Uses of Willpower:

Because your willpower can be depleted, it’s best to use it wisely and not squander it. An example of wasting your willpower is using it on emergencies such as temptation. Another example is trying to tackle 100 things at once and fatiguing your brain. The best way to use your willpower is in building habits that will make your life easier. Once these habits are ingrained in your life they will happen on autopilot. Here is one example of how this works in my life: I prepare food on Sundays that I can use for my lunches. That way when I’m in a rush in the morning I’m not grabbing just any old thing to pack in my lunch. And I don’t end up at work with no food and fall into the trap of fast food or junk food for lunch. Food prep has become a habit for me and I don’t have to think about it anymore, it’s just part of my routine.

Pre-Commit to Your Success

Put systems in place to help move you towards success. Pre-commit to difficult decisions ahead of time. Here are some of my examples:

  • If it’s a work day, then I will exercise before work. I set myself up for success by having my workout clothes and shoes set out and ready.
  • If I am going to lunch with friends, then I will put my phone away and be fully present.
  • If I am going to a restaurant, then I will only choose foods that are in my nutrition plan. To make this one even better I look up the restaurant’s menu online and choose what I will order ahead of time. That way I’m making a fully informed decision and it’s easy when I’m there.

Businesses know these principles when they market to us. Just go to a Starbucks on a busy day. You may start out with the best intentions to only buy a small skinny latte. But you have to walk past all the shelves with many different, delicious snacks on them. Once you’re in line there are more choices to resist in the food case. At the register there are even more yummy snacks. Chocolate-covered coffee beans, anyone?  By the time you get to the register your brain wants to reward you for being so good and resisting all those temptations and you give in and get “just one small treat.” Your willpower wore out.

Ways to Boost Willpower

Breathe – In moments where you need a boost of willpower, take the time to take some deliberate, deep breaths. This action can create some space between your thoughts and emotions and give you time to plan a course of action that is in line with your goals. Just one minute of deep breathing provides a disconnect between an impulse and your reaction to give you time to make a better decision.

Nutrition – Good nutrition is vital. Your brain doesn’t function as effectively on junk fuel. Sugar and flour are very ineffective brain fuel.

Get Moving – Exercise is known to increase willpower and is good for your overall health.

Sleep – Adequate sleep improves your ability to make good decisions.

Meditation – Taking the time to quiet your mind has been shown to increase blood flow to the pre-frontal cortex. This is the thinking/processing/willpower part of the brain. I have started taking 10 minutes in the morning to practice mediation.

Stress Relief – Increased stress decreases willpower. We tend to turn to ineffective stress relief methods. These are things like scrolling through Facebook, surfing the internet, binging on TV shows, drinking, eating, video games, etc. We think these things are helpful because we get a boost of dopamine that feels good in the moment. But it doesn’t actually allow you to recover your willpower. More effective strategies include things like meditation and exercise, petting your dog or cat, time with loved ones or taking a walk.

How will you boost your willpower this week? What are some things you can stop doing that are depleting your willpower? Leave a comment or jump over to our free nutrition support group on Facebook here.

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Planning Your Week to Achieve Your Goals

planning your weekPlanning Your Week

One of the keys to success in achieving any goal is to plan out how you will get there. Planning your week and reviewing it are important steps. Sometimes we set a big goal, have a vague idea of how to get there, and then we hope it will happen for us. Another challenge with goal setting is we sometimes sabotage ourselves. We start out with great intentions and as time goes by we start noticing all the ways we have blown it. I know from my own experience that this the time I start giving up. I want to share some of the ways that I have learned to plan better, celebrate small wins, and have my own back when I make mistakes instead of beating myself up.

Make Decisions Ahead of Time

Decision Fatigue

As you go through your week you make thousands of decisions. Your brain gets tired of making decisions and then it becomes challenging to make a good decision. It’s how you might end up eating kettle corn for dinner because you just didn’t have the mental energy to come up with an idea for dinner. Did you know that even scrolling through social media causes decision fatigue? Each post or photo you scroll past forces your brain to make a decision about what to pay attention to.

The Solution

The solution to decision fatigue is to make the important choices ahead of time. Calendar the activities that you need to practice each day that create wins for you. As you get small wins it increases your motivation. Take a weekly calendar and block out all the times that are committed to activities that are non-negotiable for you: your day job, carpooling kids, church, etc. The blank areas that are left are your opportunities to schedule the tasks moving you towards your goal. If you are working on a weight loss or fitness goal, look ahead. What days might pose a problem for you due to other commitments? Decide now how you will meet your goals despite the obstacles.
If you don’t already have a planner you can download a free printable weekly planner page with a habit tracker at the bottom of this post.

Stop wishing that you will hit your goal and plan for it!

Weekly review

A weekly review is a vital step in the process of planning your week. It’s how you will learn from your wins and from your mistakes. The review is not about shaming yourself or shooting for perfection. It’s about seeing what worked and what didn’t and planning to get better over time.
Look over the past week at all the successes. What are the wins? What did you do well? Then look at the things you didn’t do and ask yourself why you didn’t do them. Sometimes there are legitimate reasons and sometimes there are just excuses. Look closely at times you may have just plain old quit on yourself. What can you work on in the coming week? Evaluate what goes back on the plan for next week. Only put things on the calendar that your are committed to doing.

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Setting Goals: How to Set a Goal for the New Year that Changes You

Mountain - goal settingDo you have a practice of setting goals?

Do you set New Year’s resolutions or goals for the coming year? I’m working on setting goals this year in a different way than I ever have before. I’m pushing towards making this a year that I get closer to being the absolute best version of myself. I want to stretch my sense of possibility and think much bigger than what I think that I can achieve. The thing about goals is it’s not really about achieving the goal in the end. It’s more about who you become in the process of pursuing it. So it benefits you to choose a goal that stretches you. In this post I will share the tactics I’m following for this year’s goals. I have been listening to Brian Johnson of Optimize.me and Brooke Castillo of The Life Coach School for guidance on goal setting.

The process:

I’m starting by evaluating what I want in 3 major areas of my life:

Energy

Where do I get my energy to be a high performer? My energy comes from my spiritual practice, nutrition that fuels me, and exercise.

Family

How do I cultivate my relationships with my family to be an exemplary wife, daughter, mom and Gammy? I have to be intentional about deepening relationships with those I love.

Service

How am I using my gifts and talents in service to others? How do I show up in the world? Can I create value for others?

The next step is to brainstorm all my possible goals in these 3 areas. I wrote these down on paper and just let my brain flow. I do this over the span of a few days because the more I activate my mind the more ideas I come up with. Then I chose the ONE goal that helps me to achieve all the other goals. This will be my focus for the coming year.

Think Bigger

Next I am going to think bigger and move the target on that one goal to a level that I feel is impossible to achieve. I want to push myself out of my comfort zone and risk failure. That’s where the change happens. My plan is to fail early and fail often for the lessons that failure will provide for me.

We fear failure but in reality it is only in failing that we grow. If a baby was too afraid to fall he would never learn to walk. Each time he falls he fails in his attempt. But in getting up again his muscles become stronger and he becomes more practiced at walking. The falling and getting up again is actually what makes him stronger. Soon he is a master at walking and learns to run. As I’m writing this one of my favorite worship songs is running through my head.

I could just sit
I could just sit and wait for all Your goodness
Hope to feel Your presence
And I could just stay
I could just stay right where I am and hope to feel You
Hope to feel something again
And I could hold on
I could hold on to who I am and never let You
Change me from the inside
And I could be safe, oh
I could be safe here in Your arms and never leave home
Never let these walls down
(Called Me Higher by All Sons and Daughters)
We have the option of staying in our comfort zones. We can stay the same year after year and feel unfulfilled. Or we can answer the call to a higher purpose and stretch our belief. This is that year for me. How about you?

Planning for Failure

So I am planning to set a big goal and then actively think about all the ways I will fail in trying to reach it. I’m not talking about failure where I just don’t do anything and say, “See, I failed.” I am talking about planning targets towards my goal that stretch me. I may fall down in reaching for them. But each time I pick myself up I will have learned something valuable and grown a bit stronger.

The rest of the song goes something like this:

But You have called me higher
You have called me deeper
And I’ll go where You will lead me Lord
And I will be Yours, oh
I will be Yours for all my life
So let Your mercy light the path before me

Do you want to set big goals this year? I’d love to help and to encourage you. Comment below and let me know what goals you’d like to reach for. Let’s make this the best year yet!

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The Choice Between Anxiety and Faith

“The beginning of anxiety is the end of faith, and the beginning of true faith is the end of anxiety.”                 George Mueller

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Tackling Anxiety and Worry

Philippians 4:6-7 is often quoted and memorized.

"6 do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. 7 And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."

I grew up knowing these verses but never really understanding how to apply them in my life. How do you just, "be anxious for nothing?" I prayed. But most times the worry was just still there. Sometimes quietly running in the background of my mind. Sometimes loudly screaming incessantly in my ear. I would feel guilty for being anxious when I knew I should be giving the worry over to God. So then I was not only worrying about the original worry, but also worrying about my faith. I didn't feel the peace of God that was promised so I felt like I was always missing something.

What I didn't realize was that the key for me was found in the next verses. God had given me actionable steps to take to manage my thinking. 

"8 Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. 9 What you have learned and received and heard and seen in me—practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you."

It Takes Practice

The bottom line is that I need  a daily practice of thinking about the right things. I am responsible to invest my thought life on things that I know to be true, honorable, just, pure, lovely, commendable, excellent, praiseworthy, etc. 

When I spend my time thinking about my anxieties and worries they are things that are potential future events. I am thinking about things that may or may not be true. God tells me to think about what I know to be true. Not on what my imagination has dreamed up as future possibilities.

I also need to look at what I am filling my mind with. IfI start my day watching or listening to the news my mind is filled with negativity. I now have a practice of starting my day with the Word of God. The Bible contains the tools and the wisdom I need to get through life. If I don't have the right tools in the tool box I can't access what I need when my mind is running amok.

What we spend time thinking about matters.

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How to Combat the Keto Flu: Simple Tips to Feel Better Faster

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What is the keto flu?

The keto flu is a phenomenon that stops many people from fully experiencing the benefits of a ketogenic diet. They start the diet and when they start feeling poorly they use it as proof that the diet doesn’t work for them.  Unfortunately this means they quit right before the magic happens.

The first time I ate a ketogenic diet I experienced keto flu symptoms. I was fatigued, achy and felt like I had “brain fog.”  It resolved over a couple of days and I took those days to take it easy on myself.  I wish I would have known that there were some simple things I could have done to feel better.

The process known as keto flu happens when your body is transitioning from a primarily carbohydrate burning metabolism to a fat burning metabolism. You may feel irritable, have a headache and feel fatigued. Some people even feel some heart palpitations. The body is trying to achieve a level of homeostasis. Many of the symptoms are related to dehydration and electrolyte loss. This usually hits around day 2 to day 4 of the keto diet. Unfortunately this is also about the time that your carbohydrate cravings will be raging.

Why does keto flu happen?

As you eat less carbs your insulin levels go down and your body gets rid of more water and with that water goes some of your electrolytes.

How to cure keto flu:

  • Tackle dehydration by drinking more water. Be intentional about drinking water throughout the day.
  • Get more salt. You can use any salt but I recommend Himalayan Pink salt as you will get other important electrolytes along with it. You can add salt to your water or you can just take in a bit of salt throughout the day. You can also enjoy some broth to get the extra salt in. I recommend a homemade bone broth. I also enjoy an electrolyte supplement called Jigsaw. It adds a bit of flavor to my water with some electrolytes. Sodium, magnesium and potassium supplements are helpful on a ketogenic diet.
  • Eat more fat. While you’re adjusting to the ketogenic diet you need to make sure you’re getting enough fat. Keep your carbs under 20g. Eat a moderate amount of protein. And eat fat to satiety. If you’re hungry, eat fat.
  • If you have done all the above and you are totally miserable you can try adding in a few more carbs to get you past the rough patch. The best way to get the extra carbs is with some berries. A small serving of berries and heavy cream can be a delicious way to do this. Some sweet potatoes or other vegetables can be another good way to get appropriate carbs. Then you can slowly decrease your carbs over the next few days.
  • Spoiling yourself with a nice warm Epsom salt bath can be soothing. It's also a good way to absorb some magnesium.
  • The Payoff

    Once you get past the keto flu you will begin to experience the benefits of a ketogenic diet. You will have more mental clarity, energy and you will be a fat-burning machine.

    David and Goliath: Underdogs, Misfits, and the Art of Battling Giants by Malcolm Gladwell

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    David and Goliath by Malcolm Gladwell was a thought-provoking book for me. It was my 11th personal development book this year. I picked it up because I have wanted to read something by Malcolm Gladwell for a while and the title of this one grabbed by attention. I know many of you have felt like an underdog or a misfit at one time or another. I certainly have. And we have all faced our own giants.

    Premise of the Book - Battling Giants

    Most of us have heard about the story of David and Goliath. Many times the story is told as if David was the underdog and Goliath had all the advantages. Gladwell turns this story on its head when he describes the battle from a historical perspective. Slingers were a regular part of ancient armies. The slinger could launch a stone with accuracy at 30 meters per second. It was the equivalent of a .45 caliber handgun. The slingshot was superior technology to Goliath who was stationary and relied on close combat to defeat his enemies. The question Gladwell raises is if we have been looking at this story wrong, what else might we need to take another look at?

    Main Concepts - The Advantages of Disadvantages

    There are four main concepts of the book. Each concept has multiple stories to illustrate Gladwell's point. I will highlight some of them here but I recommend you get the book to get all the great information yourself.

    Full Court Press

    In the book Gladwell tells the story of Vivek Randive and his 12 year old daughter's basketball team. The team was made up of girls with little to no basketball experience or skills. Matched against teams who had far more experience, the team was doomed to fail. Except that Vivek was from Mumbai and looked at the game with an outside view. He saw how traditionally the game was played in the U.S. One team would score and then run to the other side of the court to defend their basket. He saw that if his girls would practice what is known as a full court press they could use it to their advantage. Instead of running to their own side when the ball was thrown in by the other team they pressed hard to not let them advance down the court. Frequently there was so much pressure on the opposing player to pass the ball in the allotted time that they would either throw it away or run out of time and the ball would go back to Vivek's team. If they did make the pass they faced additional pressure to advance the ball across mid-court in time before a turnover. In this manner Vivek Randive took this team to the national championships.

    Moral of the story: When you don't have an advantage it can lead to innovation of a new way of doing things. You either give up or you work harder than the other guy. You may not always win but you increase your chances.

    The Inverted U

    The inverted U describes a curve in the shape of an upside-down U. On the left side is the concept that too little of a good thing does not bring the results you want. The middle of the upside-down U is the sweet spot. Just enough of the good thing brings maximum results. The right side of the curve shows that too much of the good thing once again decreases the likelihood of good results.

    I know that's a bit confusing but stick with me here. One of Gladwell's examples was classroom size. Smaller classroom size does not produce better learning for students. There is a sweet spot where optimal learning occurs and students interact with each other and learn from each other. Too many students once again decrease learning.

    Another example he gave was choosing colleges. The top rated schools are not your best choice if you want to increase your chances of a successful career. It would take me too long to explain it here but he covers it well in this Google interview video:

    Moral of the story: There is a sweet spot when you are trying to increase your chances of success.

    Courage is Earned

    One of the stories that goes along with this theme is the story of the London bombings by the Germans in World War II. It was predicted that before the bombings that there would be widespread destruction and panic that would completely break the morale of the British. People lived in great fear of the coming attacks. When it finally began with 57 straight days of bombings an interesting thing happened. There were, of course, those who were killed and those who survived near misses and subsequently traumatized. But there were many people who survived what was known as a remote miss. This group of people, after days of NOT being killed, actually became more resilient and more resolved that they would survive. The predicted panic didn't happen and the people actually became stronger for having lived through it.

    Moral of the story: A disadvantage can be an advantage when we stop being afraid of being afraid.

    Desirable Difficulties

    A large part of the book discusses how some difficulties in life can be desirable if you look at the outcomes that arise from managing them. One example is about a man with dyslexia who compensated by learning other skills that made him highly successful. Another story discusses a man who grew up in a rough home and faced many difficulties as a child. He had to learn many different skills in order to survive and navigate his challenges. These skills resulted in some significant advantages as an adult. 

    Moral of the story: We don't wish for difficulties but when they arise we can use them to our advantage.

    Battling Your Giants

    "Reframe some of your biggest challenges as difficulties that gave you the resources and the perspective to actually do what you're capable of doing." Brian Johnson of Optimize.me

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    Getting Started With Intermittent Fasting

    intermittent fastingEver thought about getting started with intermittent fasting?

    Getting started with intermittent fasting is one way to lose weight with some small, simple changes in the timing of your meals. Intermittent fasting is a great way to burn fat, lose weight and get healthier. And since there is no special equipment, no supplements, no books and no particular foods to buy, it’s also one of the easiest and least expensive ways to lose weight and get healthier. I combine intermittent fasting with a ketogenic lifestyle. The two eating styles pair well together and fasting becomes simple when you are fat adapted with keto. Read more about my experience with keto and intermittent fasting here.

    A flexible eating plan

    All you need to get started with intermittent fasting is a clock and a tiny little bit of willpower. I promise it won’t be hard and it is something you can easily do. The beauty of intermittent fasting is that it is very flexible. You can do it anywhere, anytime for as long as you’d like.

    And you’ll start to see benefits from fasting when you don’t eat for at least 12 hours. That may seem like a long time, but it really isn’t. Let’s say you eat a late dinner around 7 p.m. All you have to do is not snack after dinner. Then go to bed, sleep for seven to eight hours and get up at 6:30 a.m. By the time you had your black coffee and gotten a shower your 12 hours are up and you can eat breakfast.

    Kick it up a notch

    When you’re ready to take it to the next step, try postponing breakfast by an hour or two. Or skip it altogether and head out for an early lunch around 11 instead. Do you see how easy and flexible this is? You can work in your fasting anywhere, anytime. Just don’t eat for a few hours before and after you go to sleep. I fast for 18 hours which means that I skip breakfast. Then I do all my eating in a 6-hour window. This is known as an 18:6 fast. There are other variations such as 20:4 and 23:1. You can tailor it to whatever works for you.

    No matter how you fast, it is important to stay hydrated. This will help your body burn fat and keep your energy levels up. Water is always a good choice, as is mineral water which will also help replenish the salt and minerals your body is losing when you’re fasting. Herbal teas are nice when you want something warm to drink as is black coffee.

    Give intermittent fasting a try and see if you can’t make it work for you. It’s one of the best things you can do for your overall health and well-being. And you’ll be pleasantly surprised how energized you’ll feel on fasting days once your body gets used to this.

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